Can people raise their own self esteem? Yes! In fact, no one can do it for you. That’s the whole beauty of the process. Any action you take to lift your self esteem is an affirmation that you are worth it – worth having good thoughts about, worth earning well for, worth taking good care of, etc.
If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Remember mom saying that? Well it’s true and it’s applies to you. Step one: cease and desist. It’s time to break the unhelpful habit of saying things about yourself that are unkind. Have you ever heard yourself say something like these zingers?
“I look fat.”
“I’m a clutz.”
“I’m always late.”
Whatever not nice thing you say out loud, please begin right now to zip your lips. I want you to either stay quiet or say something neutral. Let’s translate a few examples together…
“I have horrible handwriting.”
Translation: I think Wendy’s handwriting is neater than mine. Do you want her to do it?
“My desk is a pig sty.”
Translation: I could use some help organizing. Would you help me create a system?
“I’m so forgetful. I almost forgot my keys.”
Translation: Great, I remembered my keys.
People like to be around those who look at things with a positive spin. Give it a try and let me know how it goes.
